Chapter One

I. Dancing with Shadows
My world and I are going for a walk.
THE FIRST STORY OF NAMES
Man's relationship with the world around him is formed in such a way that any novelty inevitably flows into ordinariness. Reality is constantly changing its appearance, like clouds in the sky. But the rate of change is not fast enough to sense the movement of material realization in the space of options. Likewise, the movement and transformation of clouds is clearly perceived only in the rapid playback of slow motion footage.
Even the freshness of change, enlivening life with a brief flash, fades just as quickly. The unusual becomes ordinary, the joy of celebration dissolves into everyday life. Boring...
A rhetorical question: what is boredom? It is difficult to give a reasonable answer - it is easier to explain how to fight it. Escaping from the monotony of everyday life, the soul and mind invent all sorts of toys that bring unusual experiences. A toy is a good remedy for boredom. Play - even better.
Along with rolling, hide-and-seek, catch-up and other variations of fun fiddling are very popular. Growing up, a person comes up with more and more sophisticated ways of entertainment: from sports to virtual reality. Even many types of professions in essence are nothing but games.
Why many, though? Try to name a job that could not be considered a game. Note: if a person does something, he is playing anyway. What children do, adults condescendingly call a game. And adults play in what they importantly call their work.
Both devote themselves to their activities responsibly. Ask a child what he does, and he will seriously, almost anxiously answer: “I play!” Try to distract an adult from work, and he will resent: “I'm busy with important business!”
That's right, play is a serious matter. What does a child do when not busy playing? As a rule, spoiled. And the adult? Idle - that's what adults call it. But idleness quickly tires, brings boredom, and therefore want to again engage in some game.
So why do we need games, is it just to get rid of boredom? Or let's put the question differently: what is the cause of boredom - lack of impressions?
. In fact, this question is not as trivial as it may seem. At the heart of the addiction to games is a need as old as the world. What is the first necessity for a living being? Survival, the instinct of self-preservation? That is the stereotype, but it is the wrong answer. Maybe the urge to reproduce? Again, the answer is wrong. What then?
The first and foremost is the need to manage this life at least to some extent independently - this is the fundamental principle underlying the behavior of all beings. Everything else, including the instinct for self-preservation and reproduction, is a consequence of this principle. In other words, the purpose and meaning of life of any beings is to control reality.
But this is impossible if the surrounding world exists independently of you and behaves completely uncontrollably, if not hostile. There are always those who want to take away a piece of food, chase away from a cozy corner, or even eat you. It is frustrating and even scary when life is not living, but happens to you, and you can not do anything about it. Here comes the urgent and sometimes unconscious need to keep the world around you under your control.
To many people this turn of events may seem unexpected: “How can it be, because for us it was always quite obvious that the instinct of self-preservation is the most important, and here it turns out that it is just a consequence of something more fundamental?”
. However, this seems strange only at first glance. If you think about it, whatever a living being does (including survival and reproduction), it all boils down to trying to take control of the surrounding reality. This is the main motive and the primary source of any intention, which is the basis of the activity of all beings.
Inactivity, on the other hand, represents the absence of control. Hence: boredom as such does not exist - there is only a constant and unquenchable thirst to control reality. At least somehow, but to subjugate it to your will. The game in this sense acts as a modeling of controlled reality.
Some birds, for example, like to play with cones. There is a cone - a particle of independently existing and uncontrollable reality. But as soon as the bird has made the cone an attribute of its game, this particle, and thus, to some extent, the reality itself, has become controllable.
Riding is also a kind of control. Reality carries me, but in the way I want it to. Any other game is also to some extent subject to the rule: “It will be the way I want it to be”. The scenario of the game is more or less predetermined, and therefore the situation is predictable. There are, of course, games in which it is quite difficult to keep the leadership, but all of them, one way or another, boil down to the same thing: to subordinate what happens to your will.
The spectacle for the observer is again a game that simulates the control of reality. Music, books, movies or shows are all swings for the mind and soul. The exhausting run of tense thoughts stops and changes to flying on the wings of a graceful melody or an exciting plot. Whatever happens to the characters in the picture, it is all just a tamed, trained reality, and the observer enjoys the performance without a care.
The games with reality do not stop even during sleep. The soul and the mind find rejoicing in the dream space, where reality plastically submits to the light breeze of intention.

Finally, the play of imagination is another acceptable way. One makes up even a nonexistent reality just to play in control. Fiction is unusual. It is allowed to be unusual as long as it is unreal. It's far away. And reality is ordinary because of its proximity, but at the same time it is inaccessible because it is difficult to influence.
In general, all these games are not made to fight boredom. Everyday reality is not boring - it is ordinary because it is uncontrollable. It is not easy to subordinate it to the rule “it will be as I want it to be”. Therefore, and seeks to hide from such a reality in the game, where everything is simple and predictable.
And yet one cannot hide from the inevitable reality. A person's life is conditioned by circumstances and his position in society. Reality develops mostly independently of his will. For every “want” there is a “can't”. In response to “give” there is “you won't get”. What can be done in such conditions?
A person, as a rule, behaves unambiguously. Trying to achieve what he wants, he seeks to influence the surrounding world in a straightforward manner, according to the principle of “give”. Direct influence, based on direct contact, is one form of management. But it is not the only and far from the most effective way.
You and I will do something else: we will hide our hands behind our backs and make the world itself move towards our desires. All further narration will be about how to do it. Transurfing is a technology of reality management without direct influence. Only it is no longer fake, as in the game, but for real.

The Law of Nevezgenie
- In order to learn how to manage reality, it is necessary, at least, to understand the mechanism of its formation. Each person creates a layer of his world in the most direct way. But for the most part he does not understand how it happens.
Man strives for “everything to be the way I want it to be.” He tries to apply his simple principle to the world: where I turn, I will go; where I push, it will bend. But for some reason the world does not want to obey. Moreover, a man turns in one direction, but it carries him to another.
We should think about it: if reality behaves so inadequately, it means that we need a different approach. Maybe it obeys completely different laws? But a person does not want to stop to look around and continues to bend his line stubbornly.
The result of such “creativity” is a layer of the world in which “everything is not as I wanted it to be”. On the contrary, much is happening exactly “the way I don't wish it to”. Some kind of strange, capricious, intractable reality.
Often there is a feeling that the world behaves as if out of spite. Trouble seems to be attracted by an inexplicable force. Fears come true, the worst expectations are justified. We are relentlessly pursued by what we dislike and try to avoid. Why does this happen?
In the initial course of Transurfing it was already mentioned why it happens that “you get what you don't want”, especially if this unwillingness is fierce. If you hate or fear with all your heart, then the external intention will provide you with it all in abundance.
The energy of thoughts born in the unity of mind and soul translates potentiality into reality. In other words, the sector of the space of options corresponding to the parameters of mental radiation materializes if the feelings of the soul are united with the thoughts of the mind.
But this is not the only reason for the realization of the worst expectations. In general, life without problems is a norm. Everything turns out well and smoothly, if you move along the flow of options, without disturbing the balance. Nature does not like to waste energy and is not located to build intrigues.
Undesirable circumstances and events occur as a result of the fact that excessive potentials introduce distortions into the surrounding energy picture, and the relationship of dependence further aggravates the matter.
Excessive potentials arise when any qualities are given undue importance. And relations of dependence are formed between people when they start comparing themselves with each other, opposing each other and setting conditions like “if you are like this, then I am like this”.
The excessive potential itself is not so terrible as long as the distorted evaluation exists without reference, by itself. But as soon as the artificially inflated valuation of one object is put in comparative relation with another, polarization arises, generating a wind of equilibrium forces.

The equilibrium forces seek to eliminate the resulting polarization, and their action is in most cases directed against the one who created the polarization.
Here are examples of irrelevant potentials: I love you; I love myself; I hate you; I disgust myself; I am good; you are bad. Such evaluations are self-sufficient because they are not based on comparison and contrast.
And here are examples of potentials built on relations of dependence: I love you on condition that you love me; I love myself because I am superior to all of you; you are bad because I am better; I am good because you are bad; I dislike myself because I am the worst; you disgust me because you are not like me.
The difference between the first and second group of evaluations is very large. Evaluations based on comparison generate polarization. Equilibrium forces eliminate this heterogeneity by colliding opposites. In the same way opposite poles of magnets are attracted to each other.
That is why troubles come into life so intrusively and as if on purpose. For example, in married couples are joined, seemingly incompatible individuals, as if to punish each other. In various collectives there will always be at least one person who will be something to annoy you. Murphy's Laws, or, in our opinion, “meanness”, have the same nature. Well, and malicious neighbors have become an indispensable condition for any cohabitation.
The example of annoying neighbors illustrates well the polarization effect. This question, despite its commonplace nature, has a very direct relation to the field of metaphysics. The problem is that some people prevent others from living peacefully. But why?! Why always and everywhere there are “bad” uncles and aunts who do not give peace to the “good”?
. What do you get - people are divided into two camps? But if you take a poll: “Which camp do you belong to?” - very few people recognize themselves as bad. Your neighbors are mostly as normal people as you are.
The trend is created by the wind of equilibrium forces, which blows in the direction of your dislike. The direction of the wind is determined by such a “mean” principle: everything you don't like will be with you.
Somebody may object: “What the hell are the equilibrium forces? These people have just lost their conscience, that's all, and there is nothing to philosophize about. But I will prove to you now that it is not an empty philosophy.
Let's say your neighbors are bothering you. Are you bothering them? Probably not. Why not? “Because they are so-and-so are bad, and we are not,” you will say. But there are no such things as bad or good people. Any assessment is relative, because it is born in comparison and opposition.
Still, why don't you annoy your neighbors? My answer will seem surprising: you don't annoy your neighbors because they don't give a shit about you. “That's just it,” you'll say, ”that's why they're bad, because they've lost their conscience.

With this attitude, you turn on polarization, like an electromagnet that will attract more and more bad things from your neighbors. And they are like water off a goose, because you are of no interest to them. It does not occur to them to give you comparative evaluations, i.e. to enter into a relationship of dependence with you. And in this sense they don't give a damn about you - they don't give you any importance and don't include you in the layer of their world, and therefore they don't suffer.
Neighbors do not have polarization towards you as long as they are busy with their own concerns and do not pay much attention to you. But once they give your neighborly existence a meaning and start comparing you, they will immediately find out that you are not like them. And if they are angered and touched by this, you yourself will begin to annoy them. From good you will turn into bad neighbors.
And then even more unbelievable things will happen. You will begin to trouble them in ways that you would never think of as bothering anyone. You will be annoying your neighbors without realizing it. In the same way, it won't occur to them now that they are annoying you.
Noise effects, for example, in cohabitation are the very first thing to go. The more you dislike it, the more actively it will pursue. Although, peace and quiet is the optimal way of existence not only for you, but also for your neighbors. There is less energy expended that way. Disturbance is always an anomaly that does not arise from nothing. So where does the energy come from?"
Noise from your neighbors throws you off balance and you begin to quietly (or loudly) hate them. Your irritation is precisely the source of the energy. A relationship of dependency arises, creating polarization. Angry feelings like, “I hate those noisy neighbors!” - create a powerful magnet that will attract more and more irritants to you.
Nearby will begin to appear new tenants, prone to a noisy way of life, and old neighbors will acquire the appropriate equipment as if specifically to annoy you.
Another thing to consider is that your neighbors' neighbors also make a certain contribution, and if everyone's feelings towards the troublemakers coincide, the effect is multiplied.
. Of course, one noise “pleasant neighborhood” is not exhausted. It all depends on what you tend to detest. They can pile you with garbage, suffocate you with unpleasant odors, paint the walls in the entryway and so on. And dislike for neighbors, as a human species in general, may entail even more tangible consequences - a flood, or even a fire.
Similarly, in all sorts of other cases, a kind of law of bad luck applies. An object or property, to which a special importance is attached, attracts to itself objects with opposite qualities.
Well, and the meaning, as we know, is strengthened in comparison and opposition. If there is one pole, there must be another. Polarization creates a magnet for trouble. Everything that causes dislike is attracted. Anything that irritates

pursues. Anything that is highly undesirable happens. And there is no mysticism here - it is natural.
Polarization distorts the energy picture and generates vortices of equilibrium forces, as a result of which reality is reflected inadequately, as if in a crooked mirror. A person does not understand that pathology is a consequence of imbalance and tries to fight with the surrounding world instead of eliminating polarization. And all that is required is to fulfill the basic rule of Transurfing: to allow oneself to be oneself, and to allow the other to be another. It is necessary to let go of the world on all four sides. Loosen your grip.
The more you insist on your desires and claims, the stronger the magnet that attracts everything opposite. What happens is literally the following: you hold the world by the throat, and he counteracts, trying to get free.
It is useless to press and insist - the situation will get even worse. Instead, you need to consciously change your attitude to the situation in accordance with the rule of Transurfing.
. For example, try to put your neighbors out of your mind at least for a while, stop judging them, pretend that they simply do not exist. Say to yourself, “To hell with them!” Just throw them out of the layer of your world.
As soon as you manage to tear off this sucker of your attitude from them, the polarization will disappear, and the neighbors will gradually stop bothering you. What's more, if you manage to break the dependency relationship completely, something unfathomable can happen: these nasty types will become your best friends.

Everything will be for naught
In general, the fact that the “law of meanness” exists is quite strange in itself, isn't it? Why, for what reason does the world behave in such a bitchy way? Or is it just speculation, prejudice? No, there is a trend, and there is no escaping this fact. Fortunately, the Transurfing model not only reveals the reason for this pattern, but also explains how you can avoid it.
The Transurfing rule works without fail, relieving the one who follows it from a lot of problems of incomprehensible origin. It is only necessary to release the grip and stop “holding the world by the throat”, as it immediately becomes friendly and obedient.
. Well, and the one who “does not let go”, will walk like a magnet, attracting all the opposite. However, the law of bad luck is not all. As soon as opposites meet, their opposition tends to further aggravate.
The well-known law of the unity and struggle of opposites, the essence of which lies in the very name, has already turned into “school” knowledge. The Volga flows into the Caspian Sea, and the Mississippi into the Gulf of Mexico. But everything is not so simple. Let's ask ourselves: why, in fact, this law takes place?
We have already found out the reason for the omnipresent unity of opposites: by colliding them, the equilibrium forces thereby restore equilibrium. But why are the opposing sides in a state of incessant struggle?
. It would seem that it should be the other way around: they collided, extinguished each other and calmed down. But no, opposites will “anger” each other until they “fight”. And if the brawlers do not separate, it will go on all the time.
You don't have to go far for examples. You yourself can confirm that the world often gets on your nerves. Of course, for everyone to a different degree and in their own way. But in general the essence is as follows: if at this moment something is able to throw you out of balance, it happens for some reason. What happens is this. If you are anxious, worried, depressed about something, then your nerves are tense, at least partially. Here, as if in connection with this, a certain blowhard appears and starts jumping and yapping so as to tense the strings of your nerves even more. You are irritated, and the blowhard jumps more and more frantically.
There are many ways to increase irritation. Let's say you're in a hurry and you're afraid you're going to be late. The Pagliacci immediately claps his hands and, rubbing them together, exclaims: “Well, let's go!"
From that point on, everything works against you. People are blocking the way and marching along, and you can't get around them. You need to get through the door as quickly as possible, and there is literally a line of lazy people barely moving their feet. It's the same thing on the highway with the cars. It's like everyone's in on it on purpose.
Of course, some of this can be attributed to perception: when you're in a hurry, it seems as if the whole world around you is slowing down. But there are also the obvious signs: the elevator or the car breaks down, the bus is late.

the bus is late, there's a traffic jam on the road - there's a kind of malicious objectivity here.
There are other examples. If you are preoccupied and tense about something, people around you will do exactly what annoys you, and at the very moment when you want to be left alone.
Children start walking on their heads, even though they were quiet before. Someone next to you starts slurping and swallowing noisily. Various subjects get underfoot and pester you with their problems. Everywhere there is an annoying nuisance. If you wait impatiently for someone, they don't come for a long time. If you don't want to see someone, they're bound to show up. And so on. And this pressure from the outside becomes more and more intense as irritation accumulates. The stronger the tension, the more people around you are annoying. But here is the interesting thing: they do not behave this way intentionally. It doesn't even occur to them that it may interfere with someone. What is the reason for such behavior?
The psychology of the unconscious in general has a lot of white spots. Strange as it may seem, in most cases people are driven by unconscious motives. But the surprising thing is not even this, but the fact that the driving force that forms unconscious motives is not inside the human psyche, but outside of it. This force is invisible but real energy-informational entities generated by mental energy of living beings - pendulums. A lot has already been said about pendulums in the first book of Transurfing. They always appear where it is possible to devour the energy of conflict.
But do not assume that these entities are able to plan something and realize a conscious intention. Pendulums, like leeches, feel polarization as inhomogeneity in the energy field and try to suck themselves. But it is not so terrible yet.
The whole horror is that they not only absorb the energy of the conflict, but somehow make people behave in such a way that this energy is released even more.
. They do everything to make the energy go over the edge. Pendulums pull people by invisible strings, and people obey like puppets. How exactly pendulums influence people's motivation is not yet clear, but they do it very effectively.
Clear human consciousness for pendulums is inaccessible, but they do not need it and it is enough subconsciousness. All people, as a rule, sleep in reality to a greater or lesser extent. Many things a person does machine, relaxed, without giving himself a sober account: “At this moment I am awake and clearly realize what I am doing, why and why exactly so."
A person's level of awareness is especially low when he or she is at home or in a crowd. In a home environment, there is little need for increased self-control, and therefore the person behaves in a relaxed and almost drowsy manner. In an external, but narrow circle of socializing, on the contrary, the consciousness is most active and busy with self-control. In a large

congregation of people, a person's actions again become spontaneous, but they also fall into a strong correlation with the general impulses of the whole mass.
To demonstrate the work of the pendulum, let's take the simplest example - a passerby whom you follow on one road and then overtake. Just as you are about to turn left to overtake, he takes a spontaneous step to the same place, as if blocking your path. You try to overtake him on the right, and he involuntarily veers in the same direction.
What makes a passerby change direction? After all, he can't see you, and why should he care that you want to go around him? Maybe he somehow feels the approach with his back and instinctively does not want to let the “rival” forward? Such an assumption seems to be suggested, and yet it is not true. In living nature, as far as instincts are concerned, rivalry always manifests itself in situations where opposing parties are facing each other. The pendulum is what causes the passerby to swerve to the side.
The man walks without thinking about how to tread in order to move clearly in a straight line. In this respect he is asleep, so the line of his steps occasionally deviates spontaneously to one side or the other. The motivation, i.e. the choice of direction, lies in the subconscious mind, which is currently uncontrollable and therefore potentially open to the pendulum.
This is where you come up and make an attempt to outrun the passerby. In essence, this is a conflict, albeit a minor one. In order to increase the energy of the conflict, the pendulum forces the passerby to make an involuntary step to the side in order to block the way and thus aggravate the situation.
At the same time, the pendulum does not act intentionally, because it does not have a conscious intention. Equilibrium forces also do their work unconsciously. I emphasize once again: here we are talking about some processes, the mechanism of which is still unclear, and not about reasonable behavior of entities. We only note certain manifestations and regularities of the nature of the energy-informational world.
There is no sense to speculate what kind of pendulum is working in this situation, where it came from, how it manages to do it and what actually happens there, on the energy level. We will not be able to understand it thoroughly anyway. Only one main conclusion matters: if equilibrium forces collide opposites, then pendulums do everything to inflame the energy of the conflict. This is the law of the pendulum.
The endless battles of pendulums - be it family quarrels or armed conflicts - are all conducted exactly in accordance with this law. If there is a confrontation, further events will unfold in the direction of aggravation of the conflict, no matter what happens, including temporary and decorative reconciliations.
Where the law of the pendulum works, common sense has no power. That is why the actions of both individuals and entire states are very often not within the bounds of common sense. In conflict situations a person's motives are at the mercy of the pendulum.
This is the strange effect when you perceive your past actions as a dream: “Where was my mind? And why did I want to do such a thing?” Because

the person acted without realizing it. Only later, when the consciousness is no longer exposed to external influence, everything that happened gets an adequate assessment.
Close people quarrel and split up because they are convinced that they do not match their characters. But there were moments of happiness when everything was going great. And then a person suddenly changes and begins to behave in a hostile manner. It doesn't fit with the way he was before, just a short time ago. It's familiar, isn't it?
It's not really that someone, one or the other, has changed. A person acts in a way that is completely unacceptable to his partner because the pendulum forces him to do so.
The pendulum controls the subconscious motivations of the opposing people. And this control is aimed at increasing the energy of the conflict. A person does not realize what forces him to confrontation. He can act completely illogical and inadequate.
This effect is especially clear in inexplicably violent crimes. Then, already in the dock, the criminal recalls his past actions with bewilderment: “It's like a blackout.” And he's not lying - it's really true. For the criminal himself it is a complete surprise, he perceives what he has done as a terrible dream.
The dream becomes especially strong if the attention is caught in a loop of capture. In specific communities, such as in the army, a group or a sect, an environment with certain stereotypes of behavior and thinking is created. This “puts one to sleep” and the subconscious mind is completely open to the zombifying influence from the pendulum. And then things happen that from the outside seem completely incomprehensible.
Why do people kill their similar people with such fierceness because those others worship others - their gods? Who's in the way? People suffer hardships in wars and die by tens, hundreds of thousands, millions. Where is the instinct of self-preservation? The battle for wealth and territory is understandable. But how to explain the battle for beliefs?
The idea of peace is dear to everyone. But the wars don't stop. The idea of one God is obvious. The ideas of goodness, justice, equality. I could go on for a long time. Everything is clear to everyone, but common sense does not work, and evil wins. Where does this evil come from?
Well, the universal source of evil is pendulums. It is worth to observe a little, and it will become quite clear: whatever is done in any confrontation of something with something - everything moves in the direction of increasing the energy of the conflict. The struggle, if it dies down, then only for a short time, to then flare up with renewed vigor.
Of course, there are all kinds of pendulums, and they are all destructive to different degrees. Many of them are quite harmless. The Transurfing pendulum, for example, is necessary for as many people as possible to think about what is actually happening.
It is not a question of being completely free of all pendulums - such a thing is hardly possible. The main thing is not to be a puppet and to act consciously to use these structures to your advantage. But how to free yourself from this influence?

Wake up and realize the ways in which the pendulum is trying to manipulate you. Realizing what is happening is half the battle. The power of the pendulum's influence is inversely proportional to awareness. It has power over you as long as you are asleep.
Above all - you should not take part in destructive pendulum battles unless you personally need it. When you are in a crowd, it is necessary to step off the stage of action into the auditorium, look around and wake up: “What am I doing here? Am I giving myself credit? Why am I doing this?"
Waking up from a waking dream must be absolutely clear, as shown above, “At this moment I am awake and clearly aware of what I am doing, why and why exactly.” If you give yourself such an awareness, everything is fine. If not, it means that in any, even a negligible conflict situation, you are a puppet.
It is more complicated when you are annoyed by something. In this case, the pagliacci will jump as long as the nervous tension holds. This usually means that the pendulum has caught your attention in a capture loop. In order to free yourself from the pendulum, you need to fall into indifference. But it is difficult to do this.
For example, neighbors annoy you with their music, which you do not like. Your task is to “unhook” from the pendulum by any means. But to force yourself not to react is almost impossible. Suppressing emotions is useless. Instead, you need to pay attention to something else.
Try listening to your music, but not loudly, but only to drown out the neighbor's music. Think of other ways to distract yourself. If you manage to occupy your thoughts with something else, the neighbors will gradually settle down.
The same goes for the rest of the cases. If the “blowhard is jumping,” it means that your attention is caught in some kind of a loop. You have been drawn into a game of pendulum, the purpose of which is to increase the energy of the conflict. In order to free yourself from the capture loop, you need to shift your attention.
All in all, it's not that bad. It won't be “spiteful” if you stay awake in the dream. Although, one might think that all of the above is just some monstrous delusion. Of course, it is not easy to get used to the idea that some entities can control you. Whether or not you accept that knowledge is a matter of personal choice. And you don't have to believe it. Observe and draw your own conclusions.

MAYATnik's RULE
In our world we have to face direct or indirect information concerning sexual relationships almost at every step. In the model of Transurfing this topic, as well as many others, appears in an unusual perspective. Sex plays a very significant role in people's personal lives, whether they want to admit it to themselves or not. More precisely, not even sex itself, but the attitude towards it. It does not matter whether a person has a sex life or not, in his thoughts from time to time there are flashes that express the attitude.
. In general, a neutral position here can not be - the natural nature, one way or another, makes itself known. In some people the attitude manifests itself in the form of rejection, irritation, ridicule, rejection. For others it turns into an intention. And if the intention is not realized or is realized unsuccessfully, then all kinds of complexes grow in the psyche, or, expressing in terms of Transurfing, negative slides.
It can be stated that sex issues to a greater or lesser extent are of concern for many people, if not for everyone. And many people have some complexes on this ground. Pendulums play a significant role here - they try in every way to make you believe that you are imperfect and you have problems. And you really believe that you have problems. You can not imagine how you are not alone in this belief.
Thinking that you're not doing well in your intimate life while others are doing just fine, you're deeply mistaken. This is an illusion skillfully created by the pendulums with the help of the media. Pay attention, everywhere the topic of sex is touched upon, you are shown people who supposedly have everything normal.
So, if you take a filled stadium and remove everyone who is “not doing well,” you will be left with no more than fingers on your hands. Try to imagine yourself in the center of a huge filled stadium that's suddenly empty, and you're looking around for the remaining “normals”. That's the scale of it.
Even if your buddies who brag about their successes are not exaggerating, you can be sure that they too have their own problems, which they carefully hide not only from others, but also from themselves.
Let's not bring up Freud. He could hardly have imagined what dimensions “sex mania” would reach in our time. I just suggest you to ask yourself: why so many problems arise around such a simple function, perfectly adjusted by nature?
The answer to this question lies on a completely unexpected plane, somewhat related to such a phenomenon as the Flash Mob. If you do not know what it is, I will explain.
Imagine a crowded street or square on a sunny day. Everything is going on as usual. Suddenly, out of the blue, a few dozen or hundreds of people take out umbrellas, open them and with their whole look show that it's raining. “Normal” passers-by stand with their mouths hanging open, and ‘rain people’ are having a lot of fun.
Such a grand joke is organized very simply. A group of people, even if they don't know each other, agree on the Internet that at a certain time in a certain place at a signal will perform some ridiculous action.

What happens during this action? As you know, when a group of people start thinking in the same direction, a pendulum is created. The flash group thinks, “Look, here we are - with umbrellas!” The rest of the passersby open their mouths and wonder, “What are they doing?” The homogeneous mental radiation of a group of people creates a resonance, the energy of which is absorbed by the pendulum.
The flash pendulum is the most short-lived - it flashes and goes out, and therefore does not harm anyone. This harmless example shows us how more durable and destructive pendulums originate and operate.
What does it take to get people to radiate energy in one direction? We need to define a pattern of behavior and thinking - set a rule. Of course, rules are created not by pendulums, but by people themselves. Pendulums are not capable of realizing a conscious intention. They arise spontaneously. But it is the rule that creates them. The rule of the pendulum is the most terrible and harmful of all that mankind has invented. And it says: “Do as I do!"
Any patterns of behavior and thinking are generally reduced to the rule of the pendulum. Observe, and you will notice that this rule applies everywhere. Of course, it is not always harmful. For example, a wave of fans at the stadium generates a flash pendulum, and it feeds on the energy of resonance, although it does not make anyone worse.
In a concert hall, the pendulum absorbs the energy of the audience. There is no harm from it either, but pay attention to how the performers often behave. They try their best to sway the audience with the rule of the pendulum: “Higher! Higher handles! Now, all together!” The audience obediently clap their hands, and this energy, minuscule for a single person, erupts into resonance, creating an invisible monster hanging over the hall.
If the pendulum didn't absorb this energy, the artist would literally fly into the air. But the artist gets a tiny crumb, the pendulum takes the rest. The monster lives as long as people follow his rule: “Do as I do!”
So what? After all, nothing bad happened, right? Indeed, flash pendulums are harmless. What does that have to do with sex? You'll never guess.
We started talking about sex, but we switched to flash mobs. What do they have in common? You might be thinking that this commonality has something to do with energy. Indeed, during sex there is a flash mob that absorbs the energy of resonance. People since ancient times have suspected, or even known about the presence of some entity that hovers over the “scene of the action”.
This entity, which within the framework of the Transurfing model we call a flash pendulum, is usually associated with emotionally colored images in different peoples. For example, “Satan chafes.” And some followers of occult practices are firmly convinced that during sexual intercourse energy is emitted, attracting various representatives of the drowning world, who immediately fly down and organize their demonic orgy.
No matter what they say, all this should not bother you, because the flash pendulum can not harm you. It just feeds on the energy you are wasting, that's all. But that's not the point. The main thing that sex in its modern form has in common with the pendulum is the pendulum's rule: “Do as I do!”

More importantly, it's the rule of the pendulum.

With the development of technical media, the rule of the pendulum has assumed its undivided dominance. The human psyche at every turn is subjected to imperceptible but very effective processing with the introduction of behavioral and thinking patterns. I would be cautious to use the word “zombification” here, but, in fact, everything goes to that.
The modern information and entertainment industry is built on one simple principle: watch how others who have achieved success do it and follow them, take an example from them. Everything they try to show you is a standard of success. You yourself understand everything very well, but perhaps you have not thought about how huge is the influence of this propaganda, sometimes explicitly, but more often it acts imperceptibly, covertly.
Especially it concerns everything that is connected with intimate relationships. This is where stereotypes of how it should be are very firmly rooted. All printed and video productions on this topic demonstrate relationships that, as it should be understood, meet the standards.
Don't think I'm talking about some kind of conspiracy or deliberate propaganda. In fact, no one is aiming to introduce any patterns. Everything happens by itself. The point is that there are always doubts in a person's mind: am I doing the right thing? There is always a need for comparison, because success is a relative thing. Therefore, when a person sees someone else's success, he is naturally inclined to perceive it as a benchmark.
Intimate relationships, and especially sex, mostly take place in close and confined circles, hence the need for validation that “we're all good” increases. And if a person does not have, much less has not had a partner, then he just frantically starts looking for a reference. And of course, mass media satisfy this need of people by providing all kinds of benchmarks for a wide choice.
This is how generally accepted stereotypes are formed, how one should do it, what kind of image to have and all that. For example, he is a cool “macho”, she is a sultry “sexy”. Look at them and do like them. And if you don't fit into these standards, then there is something wrong with you.
The destructiveness of this rule is hard to imagine. You might think I'm unnecessarily overstating the importance of the problem when I say that the rule of the pendulum is the most terrifying and damaging rule invented by mankind. Not at all. I am expressing myself in a very restrained manner.
The number of broken couples is enormous. The number of failed happy families is probably even greater. The primary cause of breakups is ultimately sexual dissatisfaction. Everything else is either a consequence of this dissatisfaction or an excuse of people who do not want to admit to each other the true cause.
The dissatisfaction arises from the fact that two people follow the rule of the pendulum. They know that the standard is to do it this way and that way. The rule of the pendulum says, “Do as I do!” - which means change yourself, change yourself. And a person tries to adjust himself to the set standards, and as a result he gets mental discomfort and dissatisfaction.

The mistake of a person who has any problems with sex is to play a role. It is very simple. A person chooses from a variety of benchmarks one that suits him best and another for his partner. Then he takes this role and begins to play it, and hangs a projection on his partner in accordance with his expectations. And, surprisingly, he plays this role according to the principle of Transurfing - detachment, as a playing spectator, because he constantly compares himself and his partner with the standard: whether everything turns out correctly. In the end, nothing works out, because the nature of sex is such that it requires relaxation, freedom and dedication. Sex is the only time when you need to dive into the game with your head, and without any roles. Normal and natural sex - it is a game by the rules that you set yourself, without looking at how others do it and how it is supposed to be.
. On top of that, it's very confusing to incorrectly mix different concepts: love and sex. Sometimes it's just sickening to hear that sanctimonious “let's make love”. Isn't it easier to call things by their proper names? Sex is not love, and love is not sex. Are those things incompatible? They are, only once again: love is not sex, and sex is not love.
These things can be combined as well as separated. But the rule of the pendulum prevents you from doing so naturally. I will not be wrong if I say that any failure in sexual contact is due to the fact that people, following the rule of the pendulum, try to artificially mix love and sex. As a result, an absurd hybrid comes out.
In fact, if you forget about rules and standards, everything is very simple. Imagine a scale with a zero mark in the middle, where on the left are the divisions of affection, and on the right - aggression. So, if the arrow deviates to the left, it's love, and if it deviates to the right, it's sex. Whether you like the thought or not, sex, no matter how you look at it, is more aggression than affection.
But many people are embarrassed or afraid when these “devilish” instincts kick in. They think it's unnatural. Indeed: two normal people meet and at first behave in a completely ordinary way, but then they have a predatory glint in their eyes, and they begin to do things that do not fit into the framework ... Within the bounds of what? This is where the rule of the pendulum comes into play. On the one hand, there are generally accepted limits of decency, which are not always convenient to violate. On the other hand, being within these limits, it is impossible to get satisfaction from sex. And it would be desirable to have both.
And so, in order to adjust to the standards, people begin to play their roles. Afraid of awakening animal instincts, they dilute sex established and, as it seems to them, necessary rituals. This, in turn, causes some entrenchment. You should let go of the reins, but the rule of the pendulum does not allow it. And vice versa, if the arrow goes far in the direction of aggression, there is an immediate need for confirmation: “Do you love me?”
. So, there are two playing spectators on stage at all times. They are like marionettes, hanging on a string of control to which they have attached themselves. What are they doing? They're trying their best to pull the arrow one way or the other. All you have to do is

to spit on the rule of the pendulum and let the arrow go free, in correlation with the feelings of the soul, not with the ideas of the mind.
Somebody may object that it is not long to descend to the animal level. And here again the rule of the pendulum works. Who set the boundaries where humanity ends and the animal level begins? And the point is not even in the boundaries themselves, but in the fact that you should define your own rules for yourself, and not follow someone else's. You are a human being, and therefore you have the right to your own criteria of humanity and decency.
I hope you realize that I am writing all this for people who have some problems with sex, especially those who love each other. All it takes to fix the problems is to let go of the arrow as consciously as one consciously keeps control of following the rule of the pendulum.
There is a category of people who have no difficulty in sex. In fact, many problems are removed if you call things by their proper names, do not mix concepts, consciously give yourself an account of what you want to get, and most importantly, honestly tell your partner about it. Life immediately becomes easier if you are open. You can be sure that your partner has a lot of hidden desires too. In this case, there may be situations when one wants something that the other does not accept. What to do in such cases?
First, you should always remember the first principle of Freiling: give up the intention to receive, replace it with the intention to give, and you will get what you gave up. This great principle works without fail, and you will not even always realize exactly how.
Secondly, it is necessary to completely abandon the rule of the pendulum and replace it with the rule of Transurfing. And this rule says: allow yourself to be yourself, and the other to be another.
As you understand, to get satisfaction from sexual relations, you need to feel free, liberated. A person cannot feel free if he has excessive potentials in the form of complexes, for example, inferiority. No matter how hard he tries to relax, the equilibrium forces will not allow it.
But the lion's share of tension arises not so much from excess potentials, per se, as from dependency relationships. People's inner intention is most often to get rather than to give. In addition, there is usually a projection onto the partner according to role expectations. There is no desire to let the other be different.
Dependency relationships, as you know, create polarization, causing a wind of equilibrium forces that end up messing things up. The Transurfing Rule instantly removes the polarization created by dependency relationships. Therefore, even if you cannot get rid of complexes, it is enough to follow the Transurfing rule, and the tension will immediately discharge noticeably.
To let yourself be yourself means to accept yourself with all your imperfections. To allow another to be different means to remove projections of one's expectations from him. As a result, the situation where one wants what the other does not want will unfathomably resolve itself.

I repeat, all you need to do is abandon the rule of the pendulum, replace it with the rule of Transurfing, and direct your intention in accordance with Freyling's first principle. If the two of you do this, you will have no more problems. Let's leave detailed arguments on why this works to psychologists. It just works, that's all. But in general, why does a pendulum need a rule? In the case of flash pendulums, everything is clear - they feed on the energy of resonance, so they need synchronization of actions. Well, on what do all the other, durable pendulums, for which it is not necessary that their adherents act as one, hang on?
First of all, the rule of the pendulum establishes norms of behavior and thinking, that is, standards of “normality”. Man does not realize that he is offered an ersatz, surrogate of success. Someone else's success cannot serve as an example, a role model. True success is achieved only by those who dare to break the rule and follow their own path.
Following in the footsteps of others, a person is doomed forever to catch up with the setting sun. The standards of success are a mirage, but man does not know or does not want to know that the rule of the pendulum keeps him in a web of illusion. The illusion is often sweeter, more comfortable, more understandable than the unknown reality.
When a person comes face to face with the fact that he does not fit into the established standards, he experiences mental discomfort. He is oppressed by the fear of defeat, he feels his inferiority, feels alone in this hostile world.
What can he do? One option is rejection. A person can surround himself with a wall of rejection in relation to unattainable standards. Or he can continue his race for the standard. Following the rule of the pendulum, a person tries to change himself and traps his soul in a case of conditioning. This brings nothing but dissatisfaction, as a result of which one has to change oneself again.
So, when a person chases after the standard, he emits the energy of dissatisfaction and frustration. It can't be otherwise. In the same way a donkey goes around in circles chasing a hanging carrot. This energy is what destructive pendulums feed on, offering benchmarks of other people's success.
The wall of rejection, in turn, requires no less energy. It is not easy to keep a protective field around yourself when everywhere and at every step you are indoctrinated with rules that you are unable to follow.
But there is a way out of this labyrinth. It is to abandon the rule of the pendulum and follow your own path. Whoever does this will gain an amazing quality that literally takes your breath away - inner freedom. And there are such people. Here, for example, is a letter from a reader who is two steps away from this freedom.
“I'm in my 30s and I've never had a man. Sexopathologists say that this is a serious abnormality. And I can't understand why. I always believed that nowhere is it written that before 25 it is urgent to sleep with someone and that virginity is a reason for moral execution. I'm attractive, and there have been many instances of getting intimate. But I don't want to. Not physiologically - with this, everything is fine, just I have not yet seen a man with whom I would like to go to bed. And lately I've been

I've been feeling more and more like it's weighing on me. Because everyone indulges in bodily love, and I don't. It's the custom - and I don't follow that rule..... I've never been a slave to societal stereotypes, but it's this part of it that seems to be starting to annoy me. Sometimes I just feel like a moral freak. Although the mere fact of my loneliness doesn't even affect my self-esteem - I deliberately don't want to get intimate without a particular attraction to a man. Is my case an aberration after all, some kind of breakdown?"
I said “two steps away” because the fear of being “different” is still present. Nevertheless, there is inner strength and independence, and that's a lot. And of course, there is no deviation. It is only necessary not to be afraid of the fact that “I am not like everyone else”, but to rejoice in it. And of course, not to overdo it. Perhaps you should lower the bar of requirements and be simpler.
Judging by the information that falls on us from everywhere, you would think that everyone is only doing what they do to have sex. In fact, this is an illusion. Not everyone is “active” in this regard, and many do not have a partner at all. But the fear of loneliness and the fear of being different from everyone else make us believe in the illusion.
Take Paris, for example, with its spirit of freedom and ease. It has gained a reputation as the “city of lonely hearts”. Every day from early morning people run to the street and sprawl in numerous cafes. Why do they do this, since you can have a cup of coffee at home? Because loneliness drives them away from home.
It may seem to some that pendulums deliberately enslave human society by their rule. Indeed they do, but it is not the pendulums who make the rule. They exist because of it! The rule gives rise to the pendulum. And then this pendulum begins to do its black work. The main destructiveness of the pendulum is that it takes a person far away from the path on which he could find true happiness.
Imagine a crowded street where everyone is going about their business. Suddenly, men in black appear, put everyone in line and force them to march. Someone tries to get out, but they immediately bring him back: “Stop! Where are you going! Get back in line!"
A movie like The Matrix didn't come about by accident. Fiction tends to become reality over time. And that trend is accelerating. If you pay attention, the gap between sci-fi and real-life incarnation is shrinking more and more. Of course, people don't sit in flasks with suction cups attached to their bodies, but the analogy runs somewhere very close.
Everyone seems to think that formation is such a reality. In reality, the need to be in formation is an illusion. The real reality is that you can get out of formation and go your own way. But it is not easy to realize this. A person is so used to living with his illusions that he needs a good shaking or, as Carlos Castaneda put it, “shifting the assemblage point” to make him realize where is reality and where is illusion.
People with disabilities, for example, are in the position of people who have no choice. They are forced either to suffer and agonize with their inferiority all their lives, or

disregard the rule of the pendulum. If a person realizes that he has nothing more to lose, he gives up the pursuit of the standard and begins to live in his own pleasure.
Disabled people playing basketball in their wheelchairs are immeasurably happier than healthy teenagers imitating Michael Jordan's style. The latter look less natural than the handicapped because they step in formation. And none of them will be the new Michael Jordan until they realize they need to step out of formation.
Those who break the rule of the pendulum become either leaders or splinters. Some break out into stardom, others become outcasts. The difference between the two is that the former are sure that they have every right to break the rule of the pendulum, while the latter doubt it.
Stars are born independently, but it is the pendulums that light them. The one that is out of order creates a new benchmark of success. Pendulums do not tolerate individuality, they see a rising star, and they have nothing to do but make it their favorite. Then a new rule is established, the formation turns around and starts to follow the new star. Do you see what happens?
But in order to get out of the ranks, you have to know how to do it. If you fight the men in black, you will be defeated. In a battle with pendulums, you will be defeated always.
The whole secret is to get out of formation without fighting. You can just go out and, smiling calmly, wave goodbye to the people in black. And then go on your way. They will go out of their way to drive you into line, but they can do nothing if you refuse to fight them.
But to understand this simple truth, you need to thoroughly review your worldview. In our world a lot of things are turned upside down. Transurfing in this sense puts everything in its place and helps to abandon the rule of the pendulum.
True, many people may not even like the idea of being squeezed into a matrix. Those who prefer not to wake up don't need Transurfing. We all get what we choose. Illusion is also a choice, and everyone, if it suits him better, has the right to it.
I am not imposing anything on anyone and I am not going to prove my ideas. You can verify everything by your own experience. I'm just passing by and saying:
- “Hey, you know, there's Reality Transurfing! - Oh, yeah? Yeah! I'll go there and you guys can do whatever you want. That's it.
STRUCTURE STABILIZATION
According to its law, the pendulum does everything to increase the energy of the conflict that has arisen. The battles in which the pendulums draw energy are going on incessantly. But all these conflicts arise, as a rule, between two or more opposing structures. There are many examples of this - wars, revolutions, competition and other types of confrontation.

But along with aggression towards the opponents, a distinctive feature of any pendulum is the desire to preserve and strengthen the structure due to which it actually exists.
Energy-informational essence is formed and develops simultaneously with the appearance of an ordered structure created by representatives of living nature. The existence of the pendulum depends entirely on how stable the formed structure is. Therefore, it will do everything to stabilize its structure. This is the second law of the pendulum.
As an illustration, let us consider the simplest example - a flock of fry. The flock behaves as a single organism. If you scare it from one edge, all the fish synchronously turn and swim away. Where does the synchronization comes from?
Assuming that each fish reacts to the movement of its neighbor, then the disturbance must be transmitted along the chain. However, no matter how fast the signal is transmitted, there should still be a delay time. But that's the thing, there is no delay. The flock can reach quite large sizes, but this does not change the case - the same synchronization is observed.
Birds behave in a similar way. If you have ever seen a large flock of small and fast birds, you must have noticed that their tossing from side to side is characterized by amazing coherence.
. Could there be another mechanism involved, like telepathic contact? But even that is unlikely. If in a body of water, where there are no swarms, frighten one fish, the other, which is only a meter away from it, will behave calmly. So there is no telepathic communication either. The signal is transmitted only in a flock, which is, in fact, the simplest structure. Or maybe this signal will not be transmitted at all?
Take, for example, the structure of a higher level - an anthill. Science cannot provide a coherent answer as to how the colony is controlled. For what is surprising is that in an anthill there is a clear division of responsibilities, but no hierarchy. Why do all insects act coherently, as in an organization with centralized control?
Ants communicate with each other through the release of odorous substances - pheromones. Odor pathways allow them to find their way to home and food. But how is information transmitted simultaneously to all members of the colony? No higher forms of information exchange between ants are out of the question. Why else would they use such a primitive set of data as odors?
. So, what brings individual members together in an organized colony? The pendulum. Simultaneously with the formation and development of the structure, an energy-informational entity is formed, which takes on the functions of management and stabilization of this structure. There are direct and feedback connections between the pendulum and the elements of the structure. The pendulum exists at the expense of the energy of its adherents and synchronizes their activity, uniting them into an organized community.
From the outside it may seem that the structure somehow self-organizes, but it is not so. Self-organization can be discussed only in inanimate nature, where the laws of physics act as a controlling element. For example, the molecules of a liquid

in the crystallization process, they form a lattice, the structure of which is determined by the shape of the molecules and the forces of interaction.
To unite living organisms into a structure, an external organizing factor is required. This factor is the pendulum. How it does this is still unknown. Apparently, there is a certain energy-information exchange between this entity and a living organism.
The pendulum, as a controlling superstructure, is present in any structure that unites living organisms. However, it cannot be said that it controls it intelligently, because it does not possess a conscious intention. Consciousness of an energy-informational entity is similar to an algorithm. The pendulum does not carry out its intention like a reasonable being - it manages the structure approximately in the same way as a program manages the work of an automatic device.
How “automatically” the elements of the structure act depends on the degree of their awareness. The more primitive a living organism is, the less it has an idea of its motives and actions. If a creature lives separately, its actions are determined by an internal program - a set of instincts. But when creatures are united in groups, an external program - a pendulum - is connected here, which begins to control the behavior of the community.
Aggressiveness of the world, in which everyone eats each other, developed as a consequence of the first law of the pendulum. Aggression, being a generation of pendulums, is not an obligatory property of living nature at all, and this is confirmed in some corners of the planet. For example, in New Zealand there are practically no predators.
Very many inhabitants of the planet have to group together to survive in an insecure environment. Pendulums force living beings to become elements of the structure according to the principle: “Well, chicken, do you want to live? Then do as I do."
People are also inclined to gather in interest groups. This is explained by the fact that it is easier to communicate in such groups. It may seem strange that so many people have considerable difficulty in socializing. Despite the apparent ease of interpersonal relationships, they are strained for a variety of reasons, external and internal. In order to establish closer contact, people instinctively seek to find something in common that could unite them in one way or another. This is where the stabilizing function of pendulums comes into play. When interlocutors swing on the same pendulum, they are “tuned to the same wave” and easily find a common language. This is why relationships take on an ease when you can smoke together, have a drink, sit at a festive table, go camping, play, and so on.
But perhaps the most impressive illustration of the second law of the pendulum is the birth of civilization. Have you ever wondered why cities came into existence? Why people lived for hundreds of thousands of years in villages and camps, and then suddenly began to build large civilized settlements? What served as their basis: crafts, trade or, perhaps, war?
The oldest cities are the same age as the pyramids. One of them - Caral - was discovered recently in Peru. This lost city stood unnoticed for almost five thousand years. It was recognized when it turned out that the hills, rising in the middle of the desert, once-